I don’t think it’s a problem to be selfish, if you can provide for the kid (both emotionally and materially).

Also the foster/adopt system is exceedingly slow (months to years for placement) and the older children are likely to have serious issues. Personally I’d be fine with fostering to adopt but I don’t want to risk bringing a behavioral nightmare of a teen into my house.

For new life, assuming the emotional + material needs are met, existence is definitely worth it over nothingness. Global warming and all these authoritarian politicians are definitely making for a shitty looking future for new life though.

Yall got some dismal life experiences; what a dour outlook on life.

Even worse than bus factor, it’s really easy to compromise when no one double checks your work:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/XZ_Utils_backdoor