Dating? … this basically describes the entire internet at this point
We exited the information age about ten years ago and went straight into the instant monetization age, where nothing matters and all we’re trying to do with one another is make another dollar.
Dating apps are full of:
Girls who are trying to get instagram followers or cash for nudesGirls who are so uninterested in any chat because they have about a thousand other guys texting them
Guys who are just being outright creeps and want nothing but to get in your pants
And finally, lonely bi guys who are great at convo and genuinely looking for love or friendship, they usually end up with an other guy just like that
Yeah. That and you cut so many important parts of meeting your partner. This is a easy shortcut for people with low social skills. Cutting important parts of meeting someone, and being already in the I like you let’s X, usually ends poorly. You see some successful stories here and there, but there sre millions dating through apps.
Source: last two relationships from Tinder didn’t go well after the honeymoon phase.
I definitely agree, but you can use dating apps with the goal of just meeting new people. Reorient a “first date” into a more casual hangout to get to know this new friend and potential partner. I treated dating almost like interviewing and looked for incompatibilities or irreconcilable differences within the first few conversations. Not saying it’s easy (and organic meetings are much better), but it can be done.
Source: went on several dates with people through Bumble and Hinge until I found my partner.
Dating is fine, dating apps suck. That and people’s seeming unwillingness to pull themselves away from them, despite claiming to hate them. Go find a hobby, meet people there.
Personally, I feel that maybe the apps suck (Try some new ones, I really liked hinge}. But, the fact that you can meet people online these days is a huge boon to human coupling. I am a liberal living in a mostly Republican area, so trying to meet people in real life kind of felt like a landmine situation. Additionally, I have an anxiety disorder and I’m not sure I ever would have got enough experience dating to build up the emotional calluses that allowed me to win over my fiance! It also allows for a far wider pool of dating. You could spend all day every day trying to meet people in person and unless you’re already confident enough, I am not, you’re going to have more interactions online. My disorder is really not that severe, So I have major sympathy for people with worse symptoms than mine. For those people, online dating could be, functionally, their only way.
dont do it then?
