Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect
Yeah, the dread of seeing a new notification in the inbox turns out to be something pretty chill surprisingly often
UR FACE IS PRETTY CHILL
Exactly!
I still had the dread before opening this. Wonder if that ever goes away
Psst…im in your inbox…feeling the same dread. (Please dont reply, i might not be ready for another reply yet 😆)
I hope your day is wonderful
ANGRY LOOKING ALL CAPS REPLY!!!
Nice comment bro.
You can’t tell me what to do!
Only way to know is to try it again! Soooo hopefully I didn’t give you too much dread 😅
It’s basic fear response conditioning, I doubt it ever fully goes away because being cautious of the unknown is a very successful survival trait.
Basically every time you open that inbox you’d have to lie to yourself into believing that a negative response is an impossibility. Good luck, if you figure it out let me know.
I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.
Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.
I find you can talk a little more recreationally here. Can say some stupid stuff and it’s not attacked immediately.
Not everything someone comments should be taken 100% seriously, but there is obviously lines that can’t be touched either.
This really gets to the heart of it, speaking recreationally is perfectly acceptable and it seems hate just for having an opinion is much lower
That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!
i think this is my third commemt, already almost equal to the amount i made on reddit in all those years i was there.
Love to see it! Welcome to the party! Honestly this is the most I’ve really done anything on social media stuff so I totally get it.
Man I have to say I am not a fan of the ol’ burned toast there. Much prefer slightly under-done if anything
Hello I am here replying
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Hey, thanks for the reply. If you’re in the states happy Thanksgiving!
I am! Happy Thanksgiving to you as well if you’re also here!
I always want to comment but notifications can be so stressful that on most platforms I usually end up just lurking. Lemmys been pretty decent so far, it reminds a little of early internet messageboards where most people were more into discussing something interesting than trolling or one-uping someone for internet points or ego boosts or whatever weird reasons people are assholes on the internet. It’s probably the least toxic platform I’ve been on since the livejournal days
I’ve learned to no longer fear comment notifications thanks to Lemmy. It still has some assholes, but people tend to pile on and call them out on their bad behavior. It’s nice, I like it here.
But what if I’m scared to reply?
That’s okay! Nobody is ever pressured to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing! Take all the time you need or don’t even worry about it.
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I have found the commenters on Lemmy to be far more thoughtful and reasonable even when they are tearing me apart as a human being. Most commenter seem to be really nice and enthusiastic though.
Maybe it’s just a volume thing and we haven’t attracted enough of the shit heads yet to overwhelm every thread with nonsense.
I think those are some pretty fair assumptions. I haven’t been involved in any discussions until now really but people have been kind to me so far. I can be a bit of a goof so nice to know I won’t immediately be attacked for it.
We’ll see what the future of Lemmy will be, but for now things are nice!
Yeah, wtf! Stop replying to me!
I wouldn’t dream of replying to you, that would be a nightmare to do such a thing that would go against the wishes you have of not being replied to at all, again, a thing I would absolutely not do, as to retain your respect!
Thank you very much for not replying. I really do appreciate it.
I’m gonna reply to you, and you can’t stop me!
Oh no!
no screw you guy! And I won’t just reply with “no” or "ok’ like someone from Reddit would, I’ll write a decent sentence which adds to the comment chain instead of repeating another comment which got lots of magical internet points.
Truly though, keep up user interaction and content generation on Lemmy, it’s good for the site
Yeah, I’m just having a bit of fun.
Please don’t screw me though. I don’t think my wife would appreciate it.
Sorry!
Noooo! Don’t be sorry! Everyone is great!
Well I think you’re pretty neat.
Aww thanks! I’m just being a goof rambling about stuff now.
I approve of that.
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WHAT DID LEMMY DO TO MY DANCING KIRBY??
Late to respond to this but I love the Kirby dance, keep the positive vibes going!
I usually upvote comments I agree because sometimes I’m empty-headed, cannot think about something to comment at the time.
Even Christmas themed for the holiday season!
Lol I still lurk, I have no idea why I don’t like to comment
I oftena don’t feel like I have anything to add to the conversation that hasn’t been said, so I just end up lurking most of the time. I do comment more than I’d usually do to help the platform, though that admittedly isn’t much.
Welcome! For me sometimes it’s just easier to scroll and move on, engaging takes more effort. Beyond that is the dread of worrying about what people will think/say in response.
I agree! And thanks for the welcome!
Not a problem, that’s what I’m here for! Be sure to give someone else a welcome whenever you have the chance! Keep the good vibes going around and encouraging people to stay active here.
ew, people
Discussions in comments here are endless and I like it.
It’s taken me some time to feel comfortable just even commenting on stuff so I haven’t really been in any discussions. Looking forward to it though, everyone’s been great so far!
Once in a while on Reddit one of your most irrelevant comments would receive like 1000 replies, and the other times - nothing. Here it is much more evenly spread. And usually you can go into deep discussion with multiple back and forth.
I remember Reddit was the same when I joined it during Digg exodus.
I don’t believe you.
That’s alright, as long as you know that I believe in you!
I love the whole thing to be honest. I am happy to have replies days later. Reddit posts would go “stale” so fast and even if you did comment, you were more than likely to be torn to shreds for existing. It isn’t perfect here, but that is because we are people. Getting even half a voice is far better than the anxiety inducing nightmare the Internet tends to be. If I don’t want to argue with someone, I just don’t respond. If I or someone else end up replying days later, awesome!
I feel a lot more comfortable chiming in once in a while here. The Internet will always be the Internet, but getting even a tiny bit of human connection is amazing. Going from letters, phones, AOL, to now is a miracle. We may be fucked as a species, but sometimes the little things are enough.
Now, go watch Contact. That movie is my absolute favorite movie of all time. Ghost hugs for all!
It’s been really great here! I’m just getting started trying to be more active but this post alone has just been amazing (although it may be an outlier). This is the most activity I’ve gotten from any online thing I’ve done, so it’s pretty huge to me!
Everyone here seems to have the right frame of mind for why we’re here and what we left and what to expect here. It’s just a matter of encouraging each other to continue to be active when we can and support each other and the platform as a whole!
This is my delayed response, really appreciate your thoughtful reply!
Also will add contact to my list of stuff to watch (isn’t there such a finite time to experience all the media out there??).
