[Jesus sits on a rock, speaking]
A new command I give you:
Love one another
[an angry character talks back to Jesus]
What if they’re something bad like gay, trans, brown, or communist though?
[Jesus is facepalming on his rock]
I don’t want to be a messiah anymore


This is a doctrine of Christianity. The Churches that do what you wish are essentially vaguely spiritualist humanists, populated by old people who still think “christian” is a synonym for “good”
This is where humanism fails. Morality changes, as per the culture and time. In some ways, they can even just be flat out colonialist with trying to force their culture on others. There are examples of times when things which were morally horrific were accepted by the culture. People twisted scripture back then as those “progressivists” are doing now. The fruit comes from the same tree.
The difference is, Christians have a justification about wishing to “save” people whether you agree with it or not.
As for your theological issues, that’s just Christian doctrine, but you massively misrepresented it. Most religions believe in good and evil (such a thing is absent from atheism) and Christianity just makes a point about everyone being evil, and a divine forgiveness. It also takes away the stress and provides comfort to those scared that they’re not “good enough” for heaven