• Maple Engineer@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I’m cis. I’m a cis man with a exclusive sexual interest in cis women. I find the term very helpful to express very clearly who I am and what I want. I can’t imagine being so delicate as to lose my shit over being called cis.

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      5 months ago

      I don’t know why people get so grumpy over the word cis

      If a room has no lights on do you say “this room has a complete absence of light”? Or do you say the room is dark?

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        5 months ago

        I find cis to be an extremely useful term. It very clearly conveys what I am and who I’m interested in. Why wouldn’t I embrace it?

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          5 months ago

          It kinda feels like people who don’t believe trans women and cis women are interchangeable should be the ones pushing the word, those who say ‘trans women are women’ surely don’t want the slogan to be made meaningless by having cis women as the established term.

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            5 months ago

            That was the point of my meme.

            They’re trying to use it as a slur but it perfectly captures what I’m trying to say and that pisses them off.

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      5 months ago

      Hi! I know this might just be the wrong context at this point as you are already getting flak, but I was curious and wanted to ask why you have exclusive sexual interest in cis women?

      For example I would imagine some heterosexual cis men would have a hard time dating a trans woman who haven’t had bottom surgery or who are early in their transition (in which case sometimes the sexual preference is phrased as a genital preference rather than about exclusively dating cis people).

      Some women who for various reasons pass well as cis are not distinguishable from cis women, and in that case I assume based on your statement you still would have a hard time dating that person if you found out they were trans.

      For example, based on your statement I assume you wouldn’t date or be attracted to Nava Mau.

      I understand if you don’t want to answer, it’s not like this is the best context and it is a vulnerable topic - just wanted to extend an olive branch in case you wanted to talk and think about it with less judgement.

    • OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml
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      5 months ago

      exclusive sexual interest in cis women

      Hmm. So in other words, you think you can always tell if someone is trans?