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Cake day: November 4th, 2023

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  • In I’d say the first 10 years in my adult career, I definitely hated that. At about the 10 year mark I changed my entire perspective on things. I just changed to the mindset that employment is a two way business decision. I knew that I could leave at any time and I know they can make me leave at any time. So, I became much more independent. I make my own meetings with others when I feel I need to. I only attend meetings I feel like matter, which cuts a lot of them out. I do great work and I specifically build relationships with everyone I interact with. In all of my positions at all of the companies and projects I’ve worked on, I basically cut my manager out of everything. I set my own boundaries and make my own decisions. I will not do something that I don’t want to do. I will not work hours that I don’t see as reasonable for whatever I’m doing and I will have a good work-life balance.

    My job has been threatened from time to time but I just shrug and say “that’s your decision but it doesn’t change mine” but I usually have a great reputation everywhere for being the guy that can ‘do anything’ and ‘get it done’. I’ve had directors and once a VP force a rewrite of my manager’s performance of me because I basically tell them I’ll just leave if my performance rating isn’t what I expect it should be from what I produce. It takes about 6 months, sometimes a little longer at a new place to get that sort of political capital for me.

    Basically, taking control of my own work-life has made me a lot more money, given me a much better work-life balance (I rarely work over 40 hours a week) and has made my actual time at work much more productive and enjoyable. I’ve empowered myself and it is fucking great.

    Most of your direct managers aren’t really going to let you go (except perhaps mandatory lay-offs) if you’re very productive because you’re effectively making them look good and advancing their career. If they do, then fuck’em, you shouldn’t be there anyway because you’ll always be held back and treated poorly for your efforts. You don’t have to actively search for jobs always but shooting your resume out to places from time to time, especially as you build your professional network can be very beneficial. If you have a good offer, demand they match it somehow – either in money or benefits of some type. If they don’t then just take the offer.

    When management knows that you can and will leave and you’re productive, it changes the whole dynamic for you at work.

    I know some people take the opposite path and do the bare minimum they have to in order to keep the job but I think having control over what you are doing, when you are doing it and having actual leverage in negotiating your pay whenever is much better for you. When they know you don’t need them, they’ll pay you better and just let you do your thing. The 80/20 || 90/10 (depending on how mismanaged your org actually is) rule is real. Be one of the 10 || 20 and show them you know it.


  • I lived through Hurricane Hugo. Before it came about, most people didn’t worry about tornadoes much in my area when there was a watch. More people took warnings seriously but a significant amount of people would “know the signs” and go about their day anyway. Hugo hit and devastated everything. Trees through houses and everything. It is hard to describe in a small sentence how much the wooded landscape changed for over a decade but it was common for trees to just be laying down everywhere in the woods. It was now common trails were cut through swathes of logs.

    For a time after people would take tornadoes seriously again. Slowly but surely though, you’d see that neighbor that never mows their lawn think the best time to finally do it is when there’s a tornado that touched down near just to show they can defy it. Driving during warnings is one of the worst things you can do because the roads are static and traffic won’t just abide for only you. The road doesn’t just stay clear of obstructions from trees, powerline poles, fences, etc. You can very easily become trapped very quickly.

    I think like anything else when people deal with tornadoes regularly, they become complacent. People think about them like they can just see them a bit off and have time but tornadoes will hop around or form just wherever very quickly. Some people’s attitudes become “this happens every year and I survive around 15 tornadoes a year and it doesn’t really effect me much personally, so it’s no big deal really. You just have to know what you’re doing.” when it was just luck all along.


  • The UK still uses imperial for things. For example, the UK buys gasoline in liters but measures the efficiency of the cars by miles per gallon. They also use miles to measure distance for driving. They measure people’s weights by stone but only one of the various stone measurements.

    Personally, I don’t think the UK has any room to make fun of anyone using imperial units.


  • Speaking as a veteran, the VA 100% earned that reputation - it used to be shit. They’ve improved a lot though

    The problem I have with this is that although the PACT Act may make it right in my case (we’ll see), I don’t really have any way to be diagnosed by the “improved VA” that I’m aware of. As I understand it from the letter I received previously, that I’m not able to appeal some shitty (in my opinion but I’m biased of course) findings.

    sketchy fucking elevators.

    lol funny you mention that. I thought my main VA was bad but then they contracted out some VA stuff more local to me and their elevators are even more sketchy! I actually take the stairs there, no joke. I just thought it was this VA and it was sort of a funny coincidence with the contracting practice’s office.

    I honestly don’t blame the VA docs. They all seem pretty upfront and honest, even when it sucks but it seems like their hands are tied by the black and white.

    Dude literally turned down completely free healthcare so that he could go get care from the exact same doctor; but now with a copay and insurance bullshit fighting against covering the care he needed in favor of a cheaper and less effective treatment.

    It actually took someone convincing me to use the VA because I do have pretty good medical insurance for me and my family and I didn’t feel like I wanted to tie up the VA’s time and energy that could be spent on someone less fortunate. I have been discouraged for some time though because it just feels like a fight I don’t want when I can go just get it taken care of with my own insurance. So maybe I can see it from Sergeant Dipshit’s perspective without the details though the details are probably make a ridiculous choice he made. I can promise I’m not him though because I’ve never yelled at VA staff. I really don’t think they’re the problem. I don’t even think the VA itself is really the problem. I think legislators and perhaps specifically the VA oversight committee in the House.


  • Kid_Thunder@kbin.socialtomemes@lemmy.worldVeteran Affairs
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    Pre recent PACT Act that Mr. Stewart shamed a certain party into finally getting on board with and passing, certain VA claims were difficult to get compensation or treatment for because there was no linking evidence to make it ‘service connected’. You couldn’t, for example, prove that the respiratory issues you have now was from huffing burning oil and other chemicals because you had no idea what chemicals you were ingesting and you didn’t complain about it 20 years ago when you were still in. The primary catalyst behind the PACT Act that just passed a few months back is because Veterans were dying due to obvious military connected issues but simply had zero way to prove it. You can’t just write a letter to some organization and be like “What was I exposed to while operating at FOB X, Y and Z. Also did you guys figure out if this could have caused this lung cancer I’m dying from?”

    Or maybe for my predecessors “In the Gulf War I was on P-Tabs (pyridostigmine bromide if you don’t know) every day for months. Do you think this has lead to my issues?” because even though the VA’s Research Advisory Committee on Gulf War Veterans’ Illnesses did in-fact find that it does and presented it along with other studies reinforcing this to the NAC (Gulf War and Health: Volume 8: Update of Health Effects of Serving in the Gulf War, 2010), in Chapter 8 they said

    Although the Update committee did not assess the biological plausibility of the link between PB and pesticides and Gulf War illness … A comprehensive assessment of all the evidence on PB and pesticides exposures in the Gulf War was beyond the Update committee’s formal scope of work. … the Update committee found that human epidemiologic evidence was not sufficient to establish a causative relationship between any specific drug, toxin, plume, or other agent, either alone or in combination, and Gulf War illness.

    and therefore, the VA’s official stance is that although the VA itself found evidence that PB causes chronic multisymptom illness and presented all of it that

    the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) … has determined that there is no basis to establish any new presumptions of service connection at this time for any of the diseases, illnesses, or health effects …

    (see this Federal Register notice)

    in what could be a punchline to a joke about how the VA can determine that there is a problem in its initial study but that after presenting this to the NAC that did not itself conduct a study, the NAC and therefore the VA has found that there is not a problem and the veterans effected are screwed. But it’s OK because everyone involved recommends that something in the ether (“the government” without attribution to an actual organization) should still monitor the situation.

    I have my own shitty experiences that I don’t really want to go into. I feel like I’ve been one of the lucky ones that haven’t died painfully as an old man yelling at clouds…yet. And it’s funny because I know veterans that are rated at 90% disabled as a desk jockey and combat vets that are rated 0% and neither have any idea why they are so high or so low.

    Thankfully, my deployment finally got listed on the burn pit registry last year after 20 years and the PACT Act is going to give me a second chance…maybe…we’ll see after my toxicology appointment one day I guess.

    Ask a Vet still on Tricare after service what they have to do to get anything above Motrin to manage chronic pain. I am grateful that I do not have to rely on Tricare myself and also that I currently do not need to manage chronic pain above Motrin/Ibuprofen every so often.


  • VA benefits and care is really bad though to be fair. Some veterans really go through the meat grinder and are never put back together again.

    The US’ policy is basically support the troops (in words only) and throw away the veterans (in actions). Thankfully Jon Stewart has really has put so much energy and real effort into VA care advocacy or it’d be worse. It’s still bad though.


  • Anyone else always annoyed at “girl armor” in games? Always looking like a two piece bathing suit and always either the stomach showing or an open V on the bust? Maybe you get some stupid armored skirt and bare legs too.

    It isn’t that I don’t like playing heroines/villainess because I think they can definitely be bad ass and look cool as shit kicking ass but it is terribly done in the vast majority of games, in my opinion.

    I don’t judge anyone for their own thing but I think it sucks personally.