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Cake day: February 22nd, 2026

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  • I remember once on a forum a big cis het guy was saying that he’s never seen cat calling on the street. Never him, and never at any of his friends. Someone pointed out that since he’s a big dude, he’s probably not going to be catcalled, and other shitty dudes are likely not going to bother people near him because of patriarchy.

    To everyone’s surprise, he came back and was like “ok that makes sense. And I asked my women friends and they told me a lot of stories”

    Rare to see someone change their mind like that.


  • I thought the conservative stance was that there’s no systemic racism.

    I mean, there’s no limit to how stupid people can be. But I think a lot of conservatives like to say that the racism of the past doesn’t matter anymore. That a family that was enslaved 160 years ago (just beyond living memory now, but potentially someone’s great-great-grandparent), and then subject to Jim Crow and other cruelties through… generously the 1960s but realistically the 1980s, that family has no long lasting effects.

    But really it’s important to remember that conservatives just say things. They don’t care about facts or truth. They care about power, and their emotions. So even if you proved that racism was systemic and had measurable effects (eg: The Color of Law), it won’t matter. They don’t care about facts. They care about feelings.

    This is funny because many conservatives say things like “facts don’t care about your feelings”, but it’s well known that conservatives project more than movie theaters.






  • I remember as a kid I was so excited when I got a blue chocobo in FF7 (I’m old) I ran upstairs to tell my mother. She did not care, nor pretend to care. Made me a little sad, and what could have been a nice moment did not materialize.

    I try to listen to the children in my life. If little nephew wants to tell me about his robots and pokemon, I’ll be there and try to engage








  • You cannot assume that the people making decisions are rational, smart, people. They may believe falsehoods, and act accordingly. They may be chasing a hidden goal (eg: “I get a bonus if I hit X metric, so I’ll kill good parts of the site to do it”)

    I worked at a place where management was like “we want to increase time on site”, and the lead dev was like “I can just add loading spinners everywhere then”. Luckily management was a little smarter and move involved than that, and didn’t approve that strategy.