So I am similar to you but different. I love spending time with my kids, they’re the best things that ever happened to me. But I am older. I am 43 with a 2 year old. I spent my earlier days affirming who I am. I wasn’t really mature enough to take care of kids (or myself) for quite a while. Now I am a dad and it’s the best thing ever. Don’t worry too much about reinventing yourself. You’re a good person, that’s why you like being a dad. Sounds like you’re a good dad too. You’re a good person that happens to be a dad.

What is the joke?

Or just be honest and have a normal discussion. Instead of (and I will change the wording here) changing the subject or deflecting, maybe talk about the topic at hand. But it always seems to devolve into The same garbage bad faith arguments. Most of the time they’re being much more offensive than you were being right now as well. Which again doesn’t really lead anyone to wanting to care about someone’s opinion. When people act like dicks no one really wants to listen to them.

See even this. I didn’t say it was a topic you jumped directly to. If you read the whole sentence, you would see that. But this is why having conversations with you all is so pointless.

See right here. You are jumping directly to saying whataboutism is defending the American empire’s moral narratives. Every single time. Accusations and assumptions with no basis. Whataboutism just means someone is changing the focus of conversation to something else to distract from what the actual topic is. Which happens every. Single. Time. You can call it whatever you want, but no one wants to have a conversation if every time it goes to “yea well the west blah blah blah.” No one was defending the “west” to begin with. Wherever your last paragraph from is just some random opinion. Whataboutism has become colloquial, if you want to find a different term for it, by all means, do so.

Weird. No offense to you personally but every time I see someone say anything negative about China or Russia (not socialism or communism, mind you), I see someone from .ml attack them, calling them Nazis and liberals, even when there has been no mention of the west at all. Usually with a bunch of cherry picked “education” links. Then there’s always a bunch of defense of Russia or China by pointing out the West’s faults. Which doesn’t mean anything when it comes to pointing out what China and Russia have done. It’s like clockwork. I don’t really understand it, either. If you want people to see your side, you generally want to woo them, make them feel good or confident in your argument. But that doesn’t seem to happen, just attack attack and whataboutism.

Most people I see on Lemmy think both are bad. One wrong doesn’t make a right.

And Russia fails to conquer eastern europe. Why won’t everyone leave Eastern Europe to themselves

Wait. So how did the house fall in the water and sink to the bottom? Wavy land? What am I looking at?

I remember my corded kitchen phone and newspapers

Wow, all I did was make coffee

That’s the joke

I feel like nuking him in the background is a bit over the top