now THIS is a proper repurposing of that stupid incel diagram! xD

thank you! :)

Well, I’m happy that this isn’t incel shit. And I am happy not to be so exposed to it regularly. To me, it looks way too inside their mental codes, still can’t find it funny, but anyway. Thanks for the patience

jokes work on shared assumptions. This joke is political imho, and trying to avoid it saying that “this was a joke” when it doesn’t criticize these hetersexist assumptions, for me, it strengthens them.

what is a Wendy’s? edit: i see that it’s a USA fast food chain with decreasing international success. Did you mean that it’s a local, low quality, fast joke?

This graph is so wrong in so many ways…

• People can feel attracted by more than one person at a time
• Women can feel attracted by other women
• Non binary people exist and, as a matter of fact, can also feel attracted by other people (wow!) This gets ironic, as today is #transDayOfVisibility
• The reverse graph with hetero-normie men focusing on cisgender women with normative beauty, is a worse problem than yours, sorry. Men can be valued by skills, body, intellect, etc. but the norm teaches us that women can only be valued if they are “pretty” and “sexy” enough

Dating is hard because we live miserable lifes, are very individualized by capitalism, deposit lots of expectations and pities of ourselves into others, and don’t treasure (intimate) friendship enough, intergender and intergenerational friendship included.

The “average guy” has poor emotional skills, is depressed, has no real friends and thinks that a girlfriend will be his salvation. The “average guy” needs therapy, friends, needs to learn to listen, to empathise and to show his own vulnerability instead of hiding and pretending to be a rock. That is, learn to take care of himself and to take care of others, and value this as an unavoidable adult skill. The “guy who attracts arrows” probably needs the same, but has a higher sexual capital because of birth lottery.

Focus on making some sense of your own life first and interesting people will start popping out, you will make some friends, and at some point you will mate someone.

Marriage and the nuclear family is a product of the Catholic church teaming up with capitalism. Western history and non-western world is full of extended families and communities. Consider not making it your life goal, it can be disappointing to achieve it.