Still get to deal with most of the same shit, but the repressed perma-denial TV-marriage version, through the entirety of their developing years, and then never get the chance to see what an authentic healthy relationship looks like? Sign me up!
This is the correct way to divorce. You meet the “right” person. Buold a friendship. Get married. Doesn’t work. Divorce.
Verses getting married too fast or not building a good friendship. Then falling apart and doing a angry divorce. Shame to bring kids into that.
Talk to your partner people. Many things can be solved or made better with a little work. Then if it doesn’t work you split. Learn to listen and communicate.
I guess I wasn’t taking it personally rather I was surprised this was your experience. More often than not ive heard from friends their lives got much easier without the two of them arguing all the time after they separated.
Your experience absolutely isn’t universal. There are millions of us with mental health issues directly related to our parents divorce and their behavior after separating.
It’s super common for parents to use their children as middlemen in their arguments once they’re separated, as well as trying to turn the child against the other parent.
That means you have a good social circle 😄 I mean eventually it gets easier for everyone but the divorce itself is often brutal for kids if the parents start arguing about money, custody and so on. Kids often see it as their responsibility to mediate between their parents and end up in the crossfire. It’s unfortunately quite common, there are entire books about it.
You’d have a blast as a child of divorced parents
Could be worse, could be child of parents that should really get divorced, but don’t because of the kids
Still get to deal with most of the same shit, but the repressed perma-denial TV-marriage version, through the entirety of their developing years, and then never get the chance to see what an authentic healthy relationship looks like? Sign me up!
? So I’ve been separated from my ex for over a year, and we’ve argued exactly 3 times.
My son is even mad that we don’t fight anymore and we now can move back in together because we’re happy again.
This is the correct way to divorce. You meet the “right” person. Buold a friendship. Get married. Doesn’t work. Divorce.
Verses getting married too fast or not building a good friendship. Then falling apart and doing a angry divorce. Shame to bring kids into that.
Talk to your partner people. Many things can be solved or made better with a little work. Then if it doesn’t work you split. Learn to listen and communicate.
Then don’t feel the need to take my comment personal
I guess I wasn’t taking it personally rather I was surprised this was your experience. More often than not ive heard from friends their lives got much easier without the two of them arguing all the time after they separated.
Your experience absolutely isn’t universal. There are millions of us with mental health issues directly related to our parents divorce and their behavior after separating.
It’s super common for parents to use their children as middlemen in their arguments once they’re separated, as well as trying to turn the child against the other parent.
I’m glad your divorce was different, though.
That means you have a good social circle 😄 I mean eventually it gets easier for everyone but the divorce itself is often brutal for kids if the parents start arguing about money, custody and so on. Kids often see it as their responsibility to mediate between their parents and end up in the crossfire. It’s unfortunately quite common, there are entire books about it.