Your defensiveness doesn’t make it feel like you learnt from it. You might have learnt how to avoid that kind of crash (crash, not accident) in the future, which is fantastic, but you haven’t internalised that it was because of your own inattentiveness in operating a dangerous vehicle that the crash occurred, and not because of the perfectly acceptable behaviour from a member of a vulnerable group. A vulnerable group that you victimised.
You have a valid stance and I was driving irresponsibly. I’ve I have been a cyclist for 35 years. Going on trips driving for miles, so I understand.
You’re not going to change my feelings over our matter that happened 16 years ago and it’s in the past. I literally forgot about it until this thread. I only shared my story as a cautionary tale to other readers.
I only shared my story as a cautionary tale to other readers.
Genuinely, I appreciate that. The importance of looking both ways when approaching an intersection, even if the road is one way, is critical, for the safety of cyclists and pedestrians. Your goal in sharing the story was a good one. It’s just the tone of how you told the story that seemed rather off.
At the end of the day, whether or not you’re at fault or not, and whether or not you acknowledge as much, doesn’t really matter nearly as much as the fact that you’re a safer driver today. That’s what actually matters.
Your defensiveness doesn’t make it feel like you learnt from it. You might have learnt how to avoid that kind of crash (crash, not accident) in the future, which is fantastic, but you haven’t internalised that it was because of your own inattentiveness in operating a dangerous vehicle that the crash occurred, and not because of the perfectly acceptable behaviour from a member of a vulnerable group. A vulnerable group that you victimised.
You have a valid stance and I was driving irresponsibly. I’ve I have been a cyclist for 35 years. Going on trips driving for miles, so I understand.
You’re not going to change my feelings over our matter that happened 16 years ago and it’s in the past. I literally forgot about it until this thread. I only shared my story as a cautionary tale to other readers.
Genuinely, I appreciate that. The importance of looking both ways when approaching an intersection, even if the road is one way, is critical, for the safety of cyclists and pedestrians. Your goal in sharing the story was a good one. It’s just the tone of how you told the story that seemed rather off.
I appreciate your comment and understanding. It’s really my fault for trying to write a concise summary while I’m in line at the grocer.
Next time I’ll make sure I’ll just wait until I’m back on my PC or keep my mouth shut.
At the end of the day, whether or not you’re at fault or not, and whether or not you acknowledge as much, doesn’t really matter nearly as much as the fact that you’re a safer driver today. That’s what actually matters.