“b-but bears are actually dangerous!” Shut the hell up.

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    6 months ago

    I never once tried to silence you, I’m actually enjoying our discussion very much and think it’s a very important one to have. All I’m trying to say is you’re not alone in what you are fighting for and there are many many men on your side statistics back this up. But when you pick the bear you are actively working against the men trying to help. By not acknowledging the majority of men are on your side you are causing division, you are making things worse for yourself by not accepting we are trying to change things for the better for everyone.

    Basically telling you to touch grass and stop contributing to the fire that’s taking women’s rights away by blaming the issue on the wrong thing. You are teaching young women they should be afraid of men, when statistics and reality say the opposite is true and we should be all working together for a common goal.

    You are trying to silence me though, telling me I can only sit down and listen to obvious sexism. When what people should do when they experience sexism is speaking up and speak loud.

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      I am not a woman, by the way.

      I am going to restate my thesis, perhaps wording it in an alternative manner may help you: most men do not intentionally side against women. That is why the bear discourse has been so polarizing and shocking for men like yourself. You believe yourself to be supportive of women, but as you aren’t actually listening to the many women picking the bear, you serve to silence them.

      When society changes, fragments of past society remain. Just because there are few if any legal limits on women in developed countries does not mean that they hold equal societal power. Few women are CEOs or world leaders.

      The path to the liberation of women cannot be done via simply making men and women equal under the law. This ignores the entirety of patriarchial history and results in power remaining in the hands of men.

      That is the crux of the issue you are silencing by silencing women. Telling women that they are stupid for fearing men, who hold far more societal power than they do, is in fact sexist of you, even if unintentional. I am not teaching women anything, the Bear Discourse has purely been an opportunity for me to listen to women.

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        Honestly you are coming across very aggressively, very toxic and seem unwilling to listen to any of the facts. so I’m going to end my part in this discussion, you can live in your fantasy world where change isn’t happening. In my world we’ve had women running the country multiple times. They appear and excel in every career, and it’s very easy to see things are happening, I’ll admit slower than I’d like, but they definitely are. Just the other day women won the right to go topless on beaches in Belgium, another win in the fight against sexism. I feel you’re just a stubborn argumentative person, so any mention of facts or any calls to reality fall on deaf ears.

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          What facts have you presented, and why is your response to women telling you they feel unsafe alone around the average man “shut the fuck up, they are on your side, actually” and not “wow, that’s horrible, I wonder why that is?”

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            I never once said my response is shut the fuck up. Stop putting words in my mouth. My response was, wow that’s terrible I wonder what caused that, is it religion, politics should we be fighting that instead. The facts were it’s only a very low percentage of men lower than 1% That every day battles are won in the fight against equality That we’ve had women in power in my country and all over the world That the majority of women I know do not fear men That things are moving in the right direction (albeit slowly)