Important clarification/FAQ

I am not calling to coddle or excuse the behavior of bigoted men in any way!

I am calling to be kind and understanding to young men (often ages 10-20) who are very manipulable and succeptible to the massive anti feminist propaganda machine. Hope this clarifies that very important distinction. :)

Very good comments that express key points:

Edit: This post has now been removed and restored twice. I want to encourage you all:

Be decent to one another

I think this post is a valuable thing given the current state of the Fediverse, please don’t fuck it up for us by being toxic in the comments.

  • Bonehead@kbin.social
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    8 months ago

    This post is far from being the first relating to the experience of sexual abuse

    Yeah, and? So what if it’s not the first one. There’s no limit on the number of posts about sexual assault that women are allowed to create.

    This post is not that. It’s a ragebait utilizing an attack

    No, it’s women sharing stories about why they choose the bear. You call it ragebait simply because you put yourself in the group that isn’t being picked by women.

    In those circumstances, calling someone to listen and ignoring them telling you they see an attack in the way this is shaped is hypocritical at best.

    Yes, it is, which is why I don’t understand why you keep doing it. This is not an attack against you. You’ve been told that several times now.

    As a wider point, I also say that we should listen not only to women (but to them too), but also to men,

    Fine. Great. Let’s listen to men. But a post about how women are choosing the bear and why is not the place to insist that we must listen to men.

    If your priority is prevention rather than pure shows of hostility, you better be a listener for both, regardless of the direction of abuse.

    Right. Which is why you should stop talking about being attacked and just listen.