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      Yes. That’s a big part of what’s going on. A lot of men, particularly poor and middle class, have no real culture of interaction and have been told they are worth the money they make a month and nothing else.

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        I think homosexuality has reached a level of societal acceptance(at least in the west), that it is ok to be ironically homophobic again.

        Then again, some might argue that being against nazis was a societal norm, so being ironically nazi was fine too. Yet here we are now, where being unironically nazi is somewhat acceptable by a large part of the society.

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          It’s a way for people to recognize that times have changed and that by making jokes ironically it means that yes they are accepted as gay and that we do acknowledge that it was a real struggle in the past

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            Yeah, exactly, I thought that that comment was forcefully trying to find the post offensive

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        "I spend my free time playing Marvel games and Fortnite, I never go outside and never try to meet new people in any way.

        Why is society making me so lonely? 🥺🥺 How come w*men won’t eff me? 🤬🤬🤬"

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        Maybe we should think about these memes less as complex thought-out statements, and more as reflections of the times they are created in, just like all art.

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    Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don’t even know each others names since they met.

    Would die for each other tho.

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    When offer to go to lunch with someone you haven’t seen in 15 years and they respond with as long as its not within 100ft of a school

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      And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.

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        I don’t know how serious one has to take themselves to find this “ultimately insulting”. It’s a silly meme and it’s funny because most men can relate to it.

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        Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️

        I’m no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.

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    I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that’s it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.

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      Idunno I have quite a few friends where we only interact like every 4-8 months ish. But when we do we talk everyday for a month or two, then go separate ways again. Lifes busy we all know that. Not being in contact does no mean losing a friend.

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      Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.

      True. But I’ve had some great friendships grow after years of just “hi” in passing. We weren’t friends yet, but we were destined to become friends.

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      True, but I also don’t want to be friends with you if you get upset because I’m not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.

      I’ve had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.

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      But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos

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        How about transitioning to a woman, then marrying their female best friend? I feel like that would at least be slightly less gay

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          It is a little weird when you meet an old friend and they are now trans

          I respect but it was a culture shock

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    As a woman, yeah i totally accidentally told my bros I got married a few years after the fact. In my defense we eloped and my friends and I sometimes go a few years without talking much

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    Most of the comments share my distain for this sexist shit “humor.” So where are the over 500 upvotes coming from? Who likes this shit?

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      I think it is funny. I enjoyed it because like most good humor, it is a playful exaggeration on patterns that exist on real life. Sometimes those patterns break along racial or gendered lines, and that’s ok. You’re not a bad person if you think it’s funny. I get laughs out of lighthearted humor that pokes fun at men as well.

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        Are they really patterns, though? Or is it confirmation bias?

        Even early psychological studies from 100+ years ago found that women, on average, feel and react to emotional stresses the same way as men. There are 100+ year old studies on PMS that say women, on average, don’t express more anger or sadness prior to or while on a period - and yet we still get hysterical women PMSing memes.

        Media can make us see patterns that aren’t there. Media can change the way people view the world around them and affect how they behave.

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          I think it is a trend that men in general are less inquisitive about each other’s personal lives and discuss them less often, yes. I don’t think that’s an inherently good or bad thing but I think it’s true. Also, it’s worth noting that the “PMS mood swings are a social construct” theory is still listed as an “Alternative Theory” on the Wikipedia page and the handful of women I’ve talked to about it have all said no, the mood swings are definitely real.

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            Don’t let me get in the way of what you think, or what wikipedia and other women have told you. I’m basing basing my comment on the psychology courses I’ve taken.

            It’s important to note that research on PMS has been fraught with medical, historical and personal biases. This is a very well done article on why the issue is incredibly nuanced: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK565629/

            The other reason this is a sore spot for me is because I am a woman who lived with undiagnosed mental and physical disorders for over ten years because my complaints were disregarded as menstrual symptoms. I was eager to internalize that because of prevalent media that pushes the idea of the hormone-driven, irrational female, without providing the basis for those claims.

            As it turns out, being in a whole fuck lot of pain and having doctors tell you that’s normal can make someone pretty irritated.

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              Sorry, I don’t understand. Were you experiencing severe pain and mental symptoms related to your menstrual cycle? If so, why would you be arguing against the notion that PMS symptoms are real? If anything I would think telling women “nope sorry, your perceived symptoms are all in your head, that is just a patriarchal myth that you’ve internalized” is more condescending than saying that PMS symptoms are real.

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                  I’m gonna be honest I didn’t read that entire chapter but I think I get the gist of it. King posits that PMS is falsely understood to be a primarily mental/mood-related condition due to the underlying sexist belief that women are fundamentally irrational and overly emotional. Sure, no disagreement there. PMS has sort of become a meme and a cultural phenomenon, which may cause women and men both to play up the mood swing side of it. With that said, “The chief complaint is one or more of the emotional symptoms associated with PMS. Irritability, tension, or unhappiness are typical emotional symptoms”. According again to Wikipedia which in my experience is more accurate than any single source or anecdote.

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        A sexist meme. What’s your point? Is sexism okay as long as it uses these meme faces and is posted in a meme subs?

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          Light hearted not so sexist memes are fine and accepted by everyone

          It’s not that deep

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            This is neither light hearted nor accepted by everyone, hence the existence of this conversation. If it’s satire it’s not obvious at all.

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              If you think this isn’t light hearted meme then I don’t know man. I guess you never opened instagram, reddit or any other social media

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      Who likes this shit?

      People with a sense of humor who don’t get offended each time wind blows.

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      I’m with you but just for the sake of hypothesizing an answer, it might be that those who like it or don’t think too much about it just read, upvote, and move on. While those who have comments click and share.

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      it’s funny because it pokes fun at the latent sexism in our culture. It’s not glorifying it, it’s portraying it as silly.

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      It sarcastically describes my life as a man, especially when I try to be the top two people but every other man wants to be the bottom two. The title might glorify it but we aren’t.

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    Shit, that reminds me I should text my best friend, he might be a father by now.

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        It’s probably been two years. Ever since he got married and moved out of town this has been normal for us. Also he works during the day and I work during the night so it’s difficult to find a good time to talk.