“Accurate.” - my wife
Source: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1477987487227855&set=a.196329812060302
I’m the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I’m the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn’t my fault, it was still my fault.
abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.
That’s painful to read. Hope you are able to untangle yourself from that mess.
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been there. yes.
Did you manage to get out?
Not the person you replied to, but I did. She’s been trying to get me back ever since, despite living with her new boyfriend. He’s as abusive as she is but she needs him for his car so I keep telling her she’s met her perfect match and I’m not coming between them lol
I did - almost 10 years ago. Still think about it all the time
Yo are you still in aforementioned relationship hell?
no, she still is a nightmare because kids and custody battles, but I’m not in a much healthy poly thing.
Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she’d do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There’s sooo much more and it all ended poorly… For her, at least. I’m out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.
However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.
My saving grace was that the last time she hit me, it was on camera. Video evidence goes a long way toward forcing the hand of the police.
my daughter saw her kicking me while I was in the floor, it was recorded (audio only), police said it wasn’t enough evidence, despite my daughter’s testimony.
That’s fucked up
I think one of the issues couples have with cleaning is that everyone has different schedules and approaches
I never clean during weekdays, sorry but work fucks me up and when I come home I want all relaxation
When the weekend starts after my Saturday morning I’ll go on a quick cleaning binge, and then Sunday night I do another clean binge and repeat
I think, there are some things that can’t “wait”, dishes, always after meal. I never want to arrive in my kitchen and it’s full of dirty dishes.
i don’t own enough dishes for it to be a problem
Same here. Sadly, both of my housemates are more like underscores.
The issue is people assume their way is the only right way and when someone does it differently they interpret it as lazy or malicious, rather than responding with humility and trying to find out how their partner thinks.
I always found it overwhelming to get started on big messes, so cleaning everything up immediately would get around my executive dysfunction. When I got in a relationship with someone whose approach was to be a human hurricane and then deep clean every once in a while it was a culture shock and it took years of me being a bad partner to become more responsible. I didn’t really understand the executive dysfunction so I self-loathed over it.
Spend two hours of your precious weekend cleaning or 15 minutes once a day so it stays clean throughout the week.
Hmmm decisions decisions.
15 minutes on a weeknight is like 1/8th of the time I have to myself. Two hours of the weekend is a much smaller chunk
Same. If it’s something I can just rinse or wipe down I’ll do it now but if it’s going to require elbow grease it will keep til Saturday (or soak til tomorrow when it will be rinse and wipeable). Saturdays are for cleaning. Every few weeks I take a Monday so I can deep clean without regret.
But you still have to somewhat wash them before they go in the dishwasher.
Only sometimes. Just put everything in as is and hand wash what doesn’t come out clean. This applies more to newer washers rather than the old ones that just redistribute the filth.
I remove solids, especially vegetable matter, cell walls and all that. But mainly a fork over the garbage, and on some occasions a light rinse.
And I’ve seen every TC video there is. Even made a patron account just to sub to him. But I could never get the desired result from dishwasher dust, and so I’m a pod man, and I’m happy with what I see, and that’s that.
Sadly I have an older one that requires more pre washing.
My trick is to do the chores first, then with any leftover time I can do whatever I want guilt free.
leftover time
Get a load of the optimist over here
I know, when are chores ever done? If I didn’t allot free time for myself I’d never have any.
They have all of the time of the age of Aquarius leftover.
Yeah, I got a similar trick. I just never get tired, bored, or distracted. You should try that!
Andy is short for Andrea, right? IMPOSTER EVERYONE!
/s
My wife goes into complete reading trance when she gets her hands on a new novel. Nothing will get done until that book is finished. Any response will be delayed until the next chapter.
I have learned to stop anywhere in a book and it helps a lot with chores. My condolences to your wife for her addiction.
Ack no, not in my house. I cook, husband does the dishes usually. I clean the dishwasher filter, maintain the machine and tell him not to clean the dishes before they go in. He doesn’t usually wash my cast iron because he was messing it up (which is not easy to do but he managed it) but all the regular dishes and most of the pots & pans are his world because he wants me to cook.
I do 75% of the house work. Fuck this dated noise.
Oh chill out. The entire premise of this strip is that the guy in the third panel usually DOES do the dishes. Don’t be so fragile and masculine.
Worthless bickering that’s divisive.
Then why the fuck are you partaking?
Where did I post divisive comics or content designed based of 50 year old norms and stereotypes? I’m not quite following your logic.
Men like you are constantly under comics like this bitching and moaning discrimination over the literal smallest issues. It’s truly pathetic.
If you check his comment history, this guy is a full time troll. An easy block.
Thanks for the heads up. I see idiots like these all the time under comics like this, and didn’t realize it was simply bait.
His comments read like 4chan ca. 20 years ago. Extremely embarrassing.
🤣👌👍
This is some AfD tier shit-post.
Fragile! Masculine! You!
Sick burn. Do you feel like you’re winning? Browns and queers are being round up and put in camps but you get your dopamine hits punching up at half the base 🤷♂️.
You’re the one bringing up culture war bullshit because you’re so fragile and so value your precious precious masculinity.
So much winning.
Time to buy a dishwasher.
There’s an old Mitch Hedberg joke that goes something like “This shirt is dry clean only, which means… it’s dirty”
I think the same applies exactly for dishes that aren’t dishwasher safe. I have a dishwasher but my sink still has a pile of dishes waiting.
" I like to buy things to make my life easier. I also like to buy other things that don’t work with the first things to make my life harder again."
Simply only buy dishes that are dishwasher safe.
@emb @Diplomjodler3 do you want a frozen banana?
Uh, I do the dishes and the gaming and the laundry and vacuum and…
But she’s hot and makes more money, so its all good.
I’m gonna assume that the oopsies person has a job and is just on their day or hours off.
The opposite is normally true for my SO and I. They will still accuse me of making the mess but once I sort things into piles and show the mess is from them they are always very surprised.
That would only serve to piss off my SO.
How can you not know where it is from?
This, but both ways. Neither my wife nor me washes the dishes regularly. Needless to say a dishwasher was a game changer.
We both work from home. We have neither excuses nor anyone to blame.
We’re just the third panel twice in a standoff with the dishes.
We just have the rule that whoever cooks doesn’t wash. I hate cooking because I hate getting my hands sticky, my wife hates washing the dishes because she always forgets the corners and we end up rewashing anyway.
It’s perfect harmony. Whenever she doesn’t want to cook, I cook, and she then procrastinates washing as long as she wants because it is her responsibility and we both know it.
We basically never fight, but cooking and washing has never been a point of tension in this household lol.
Is it a bad sign that I instantly recognized ARC raiders?
I can’t even remember the name of the game and I still recognised it. That’s the sign of a game with a distinct artstyle and therefore probably not a bad sign on your part.
Is it meant to be obscure? I only recognized it because some youtubers I watch played it for a couple weeks.
Not at all, I was just referring to my own tendency to spend a lot of time playing video games.
Only if it’s bad that I recognized he’s on buried city, wielding a kettle in front of a wasp and a rocketeer
it’s Arc Raiders
Yes, thank you
weird, I thought i replied to the Helldiver’s comment lol
Haha all right
this is me today, but tmy husband just getting in from work lol
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